What do you think?
‘I'm
keeping all four!' What this courageous mother replied when doctors said:
Sacrifice two of your sons to save the others
Doctors don’t know all; Follow your
instincts
The
miraculous story of Emma and her husband Martin started about 2 years ago in
Bristol. She was pregnant and went for
the usual checkup at 12 weeks when she was told that she was carrying 4 babies
which was conceived naturally at a mind bugging odds of 750,000 to 1.
When she went
for her next routine checkup, to her further surprise she learnt that of the
quadruplets; 2 were identical twins. But
there ended the sweet stories as the consultant explained the dangers inherent
with such level of multiple births and recommended that she either get rid of 2
of the babies or terminate the whole pregnancy.
After discussing with her husband they resolved to carry on with all 4
babies.
On her 20th
week checkup she learnt that all the 4 kids were boys. Here then comes her final temptation; for
after this week she must live or die by what ever she decides now, she can’t
change her mind after that date, said the consultant. As this is the last time a termination or
selective reduction would be possible she found herself in an impossible
dilemma, she thought; ‘ If I abort 2 to save 2, then each time I looked at my
surviving babies I’d also be thinking about the ones I’d lost. The thought of it broke my heart’. She however decided to soldier on, what ever.
Financially,
how will she and her husband cope? God
will provide, she believed. Last month
the 4 bubbly, happy and healthy boys celebrated their one year birthday.
(Now consider the 2nd case below)
Would
you give up your disabled son to allow your other children a chance of
happiness? Despite agonies of guilt, Jane says it's the best decision she ever
made
A mother’s anguish
Jean and her
husband, Andrew, have 3 children, Tom, James and Elizabeth; they live in
Birmingham where she worked as a solicitor.
In 1999 she gave birth to James, her second child, and her life and the
life of the entire family changed dramatically; for James was born severely
disabled with cerebral palsy, epilepsy and autism and he grew up to be
wheel-chaired.
From the day
James was born in 1999 the entire family suffered for 9 agonizing years before
finally deciding to give him up in 2008.
Attending to James was so all-consuming that Jean’s other 2 children
were almost forgotten and the strain almost destroyed her marriage. James was extremely troublesome; he attacked
everybody including his mother, his other siblings and even complete
strangers. He was so dreaded at home
that his elder brother, Tom would refuse to join a family outing if James was
coming along. Jean had no time for any
other thing, she ignored her husband and her other 2 children to be a 24-hour
carer to James.
By around
2007 Jean and her husband made the decision to give up James. Then began the struggle to get the local
council to admit James as a special needs pupil and provide funding. The parents spent over £20,000 of their hard
savings on legal fees and professional assessment in their long battle to
convince the local authorities that their son was disabled enough to qualify
for admission and funding into a special needs residential school.
In 2008 James
finally left home for this residential school and the reports his parents gets
on his progress has so far been encouraging.
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